Hiding quietly, mostly out of sight, among the thousands of videos of cats and “fails” and endless photos of birthday parties, and selfies is a reality most parents never see—teen depression. We typically think of social media as something that connects people or allows them to share their thoughts and views. While that may be true, there is an abundance of body shaming and gossiping going on. Part of our human nature is to compare ourselves to others. This exercise in mental gymnastics to determine whether or not one person is as good as someone else, is strongest during the teen and tween years. Everyday, your teenagers are attempting to figure out their identity, what makes them who they are, and what gives their life meaning. Considering that 92% of teens are online each day, chances are your sons or daughters social media use is playing a role in their identity. Because of their need for comparison, they count how many “friends” each person has online, how many “likes” everyone else’s photos get on Instagram, and how many views the outgoing kid at the homeschool co-op has on his YouTube video. One recent study showed that 90% of all teens admit to feeling anxiety at some point in the last year. Admittedly, not all tension or anxiousness is bad. Sometimes it can be the mind’s way of saying, “Hey, this is a toxic relationship. You need to end it,” or “You don't have to be a part of this. Get up and leave.” Even with that, social media should not be something that stresses out your child.